Sex is emotional and emotions are sex. Sex runs through a Motor, not an Awareness center. The Splenic center, an Awareness center, has the mirror image of the sexual streams, through the Splenic runs the Caring streams, runs what can sustain a sexual relationship. First, here's the Sexual Streams.
3 Streams of Sex: the Marriage/Tribal Stream, the Romance/Individual Stream,
& the Excitement/Collective Stream
We all have 64 gates and 9 centers, the lack of definition is where we are open. We all have a sexual side. Some of us have definition, some of us are open sexually. The less amount of activations of sex, through these streams, the more intrigue/curiosity with sex. We want what we are not, the more we can tend to ''hold on.'' The areas where we have definition, we're consistent.
Each stream has it's own sense, touching, hearing, seeing. The tribal stream of marriage is all about the Touch. Words mean very little in a stream with no connection to the throat. From the Root at Gate 19 to the Emo SP at Gate 49 & Gate 37, leading up to the Ego at Gate 40.
Food and Sex are very intertwined. In the Tribal/Marriage realm, it's about who has the food, not so much the eating it. Who has the food/sex, where's it getting distributed, all those contracts and bargains.
Gate 19 - Gate 49 Channel of Sensitivity
Gate 19 is the flirt, Gate 49 has the resources. Here we see the channel of the Bride and Groom, the flirtation before marriage, the setting up of the marriage, the preliminaries.
Gate 37 - Gate 40 Channel of Marriage
Gate 37 is the gate of Friendship, gate of the mouth. Gate 40 is the gate of aloneness, the gate of the stomach. This is the marriage contract itself.
Tribal sexuality can become very creative. It's very sensual. Ra brings up an important point here that sex can become very oral, and reach beyond penis-in-vagina sex, because most of the world has a issue of fecundity. In order to prevent pregnancy, there's a lot of sexuality that can be found in this stream that goes beyond procreation.
This is the Romance/Individual Stream. From the Root at Gate 39 to the Emo Solar Plexus at Gate 55 & Gate 22 through to the Throat at Gate 12.
This stream loves words, there's a connection to the throat. What happens here is the pulse mechanism, it's individual, the creativity is either On or Off. The feeling here is based on ''I''. As in, ''I feel good or bad because I'm being . (picky sexually, strange sexually, limited sexually, etc.) And the words mean more than the actions. This is a stream where Romantic Love is highlighted. Sex is Love, not a commodity like the Tribal Love/Sex and not just another Collective exciting experience. Consummation is best pushed aside in favor of love songs, poetry, etc.
This is the collective sex, all about ''sharing'' with the collective. This is visual, so that the sex can be remembered, and shared. Starting at the Root at Gate 41connecting up to the Emotional Solar Plexus at Gate 30 & Gate 36 to the Throat at Gate 35.
And insatiable drive to keep moving forward. Sex here is very exciting with the focus on the expereience itself rather than the person or people involved.
Blame can be found in the collective stream. Where we see the ''I'' being highlighted in the Individual stream, the ''You'' is highlighted in the Collective. ''I feel this way because you .
Chetan Parkyn HDS Article 4 :
''The marriage and property sex stream runs from the root center, through the emotional center to the ego/willpower center. It moves energetically through the realms of loving, honoring, marrying and obeying. It is based in a contract of who fulfills what and who belongs to whom in a relationship. It is very tactile, as in holding and touching and is also community oriented, in that everyone knows who "belongs" to whom (and in certain cultures, what they had to pay to get them!).
The Romance and disillusionment sex stream runs from the root center through the emotional center to the throat, where it speaks out in "sweet nothings" and poetry. Consummation of romance is the trial because the chase is more engaging than the culmination. This stream is acoustically oriented, based in sounds and sighs, therefore our love songs promise a perfection which is perhaps just unobtainable.
The excitement and disappointment sex stream draws us through experiences one after the other. This is the stream of the Kama Sutra where every fantastic possibility must be explored. The need for fulfillment of desire may be felt as impersonal, where the experience itself is more important than the other person involved in the experience. Desire can even burn out in a state of boredom when all conceivable eventualities have been explored. With advancing age and maturity, the need to constantly fulfill changing experiences diminishes.
Accepting our sexual nature
In each of these sacral connections and sexual streams it can be seen that we are drawn along through the possibilities of pleasures and the possibilities of dissatisfaction. We are slaves to our biology when sexual energy runs us, making our choices for us. However, when we are clear about our own relationship to our own sexuality, we feel an inner sense of satisfaction and balance.
Sexual compatibility begins with recognizing our own personal unique sexual makeup and then allowing for a merging with the energies of our partner. Sexual energy plays through many forms. It is the life force which moves within us and life is our nature and our delight.''